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No Good Deed Goes Unpunished.

I really can’t believe what a rollercoaster this week has been.

The highs and lows have been unlike any I have felt in a long time.

When I woke up on Tuesday morning, I had no idea what the day had in store for me.  I just expected another unremarkable Tuesday, like all the rest.  I absolutely did not expect te whirlwind 48 hours that I have experienced.

The sad fact is, 48 hours after hearing about Darth Fiddler, I am now actually getting backlash and negativity.

The following is an excerpt from a message I got from a “friend” late last night:

I don’t see spontaneous fundraisers for Our Place or Streetlink.  Absolutely nothing. So tell me, when is the  community holding a fundraiser for the other 60 ppl mugged in yyj every year? Or those Whose homes burned down? Or other worthy people suffering loss or tragedy? What makes this one special?

So how am I supposed to answer those questions? How am I to blame for the perceived lack of support for other causes?

From what I see, Victoria is an extremely generous community. We always turn out when there is a need for support.  But the reality is, we can’t all support everything and we all have to choose what causes & donation requests matter to us.

I can’t tell you what prompted me to make the phone call that lead to a new violin for Darth Fiddler. All I can tell you is that it was an automatic reaction.  I didn’t think about it, I didn’t analyze it.  I just thought to myself “hmm, here’s someone who needs a violin, and I know people who have violins, I wonder if I can make something happen”.   I didn’t ask Larsen Music to give me a violin. I asked if they had one they were willing to sell at a discount OR donate.  They made the decision to donate on their own.

Street performers are a huge part of what makes Victoria a great city to visit and a great city to live in.  I have spent countless summer evenings through out my life, down on the causeway being entertained. When I was a teenager, I used to spend hours downtown distracting myself from the realities of what was going on at home. In fact, I was actually downtown distracting myself when I got word that I needed to head to hospice to be there for my father’s last hours.

For all intents & purposes, these people are out there doing this for free, entertaining you for free. They don’t get paid to do this. Their only source of income is what the public places in their ‘hat’.  If you don’t enjoy the performance, you don’t have to pay! Where else do you get a deal like that?

So, you don’t agree with my decision to help this specific person, or this specific cause.  That’s fine, no one is forcing you to get involved.  You are free to support whichever causes you feel are more deserving and have more meaning to you. I promise, I won’t judge.



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  1. Colin says:

    So proud of you – You are the real deal. A true twitter hero. You made a difference in one persons life and lit the hearts of thousands. Sure, there are always other causes. We need to tackle one injustice at a time.

    Maybe your “friend” needs to pick up a shovel.

    Pick his or her own injustice… and dig in.

    Bless you!

  2. Kirsty,

    First and foremost, celebrate the beyond generous deed you have done, not just for this one performer who got a beautiful new violin out of it, but for the community who now has hope and who has bonded together to turn a misfortune into a positive outcome.

    When others criticize our positive work, it’s not at all about ‘you’ and what you’ve done, but that there is something within themselves or how they view life that isn’t sitting right. I see it from time to time with clients I work with. When the first response is negative (to something positive like this), it’s “their stuff” not yours.

    People see what they want to believe — 99% of us believe in the positive and caring nature of the members of our community, and that every good deed is a valuable and worthwhile one. You can’t control what the other 1% choose to see. So let it go.

    Don’t let this negative comment overshadow the positive outcome of this story! For the 1 or 2 people who respond negatively to it, there are hundreds and even thousands who are applauding everyone involved in this happy outcome. Be proud. Feel Good. You did well. You did enough. We are lucky to know you and have you in our community Kirsty!

    Lindsay Rose

    PS – in response to your ‘friends’ comment… there ARE spontaneous fundraisers for others in need… We see it all the time here in Victoria, just not everyone catches wind of it, or sometimes it doesn’t seem like it is enough. But every little bit, like placing a violin back into the hands of a performer, is a step in the right direction 🙂 Celebrate the wins & successes in our community, because we are doing well!

    1. Kirsten says:

      … what she said (and said extremely well – thank you).

      This also pretty much works for the crap that happened in Vancouver, including some people’s responses to the police actions.

      “You can please some of the people all of the time, you can please all of the people some of the time, but you can’t please all of the people all of the time”.
      – poet John Lydgate, later adapted by President Lincoln
      (citation: http://scottdunlop.wordpress.com/2007/09/07/famous-word-of-lincoln-and-lydgate-you-cant-please-all-of-the-people-all-of-the-time/)

  3. Ugh. I’m sorry you’re getting this negativity. That’s misdirected frustration for sure – not really at you, but maybe out of feeling bad that everyone in need isn’t getting the support they may well need.

    You’ve done a great thing, and created a warm fuzzy feeling for lots of Victorians. Don’t let some negativity diminish that.

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